The process you choose will depend on what your spouse agrees to, how much help you both need, and what you can afford. Consider what your priorities are now, and what they will be in the future, and let those priorities help to determine where to devote your resources.

Choose:

  • You and your spouse are committed to staying out of court and want to work together in a respectful manner to seek a mutually acceptable resolution.
  • You want to prioritize your respective needs and goals over what the law determines is in your best interest.
  • You want a holistic process, where specially trained professionals work together in a transparent manner, and in their respective area of expertise, to address the legal, emotional, financial, and parenting issues in your case.
  • You want your own attorney- an ally to guide and support you while helping you navigate the process.
  • You want a healthy and cooperative post-divorce relationship, especially because you intend to co-parent.
  • You want a confidential, voluntary and private process where you and your spouse choose the outcome.
  • You and your spouse want to stay out of court and are willing to work together in good faith to reach a mutually acceptable agreement.
  • You want to find creative solutions based on what is important to each of you, and not agree to something out of anger, exhaustion, fear, or to “buy” peace.
  • You want the assistance of a neutral third party, who can help you communicate and negotiate in a respectful, cooperative fashion.
  • You want a confidential, voluntary and private process where you and your spouse choose the outcome.
  • You want an experienced attorney/mediator to prepare and file the paperwork.
  • You are in mediation and need legal advice to help you make an informed decision during negotiations or to review a final settlement. (Independent Consulting Attorney).
  • You want the help of an attorney to draft the paperwork and guide you through a divorce where there is an agreement on all issues. (Divorce Paperwork Assistance).
  • You are handling your own divorce and want legal advice and/or help negotiating a settlement with your spouse or his/her attorney (Advice and Counsel).
  • You have little, if any issues to resolve.
  • You have the time and patience to learn how to fill out the forms and understand the process.
  • You can’t afford any other options.
  • You want assistance with preparing all the paperwork for an uncontested divorce (one where there is an agreement on all issues).
  • You have very limited financial resources.
  • Staying out of court is not an option. You may need to hire a litigator if your spouse won’t cooperate; or if there is high conflict, serious substance abuse or mental health issues, or intimate partner abuse.